how your childhood affects your current self talk
As humans it is easier for us to process negative information than it is for use to process positive information. This is apparent when it comes to our self talk or inner voice. This is the voice that is inside your head having dialogue with you throughout your day. It might encourage you to say the hard thing, it might remind you to go on a walk and it also might tell you that you are not enough and you need to be doing better.
When we are children the way our caregivers and other adults talk to us has a deep impact on our self talk for the rest of our lives. If we are constantly told to do better and be better as kids we learn that when we live up to the expectations of others we are loved and desired. Since learning that as a child, you will continue to have that mindset (though it may manifest differently) as you grow older. If you fail at a work assignment or the relationship end or you feel as if you have done something wrong, all of the negative comments adults said to you as a child flood back as your own thoughts.
There is hope —
We have the ability to change our self talk. It is not easy and it takes work, but it is worth it to heal and thrive in life. The first part of changing your self talk is becoming aware of it. Separating yourself from that voice and recognizing what it is telling you about the world and about yourself. Then, when the voice arises change the narrative it is telling you. To do this you will have to know the positive narrative of your life which make take more reflection. Being aware of your thoughts and changing them is not going to happen in a day. It takes weeks, months and even years to rewire your brain to believe you are good and you are enough.
